What are boundaries?
An introduction to Boundaries…
The title of this blog, “What are Boundaries?” forms part of a SERIES ON BOUNDARIES with the following Index:
- Blog 1: Introduction: What are Boundaries?
- Blog 2: How NOT to take on Undelegated Responsibility
- Blog 3: “Being needed” and Boundaries
- Blog 4: Help with overcoming the fear of man and people pleasing
- Blog 5: Busy People and Boundaries
- Blog 6: Overcoming Control by setting Boundaries
- Blog 7: Practical tips on how to set Boundaries
An introduction to Boundaries…
Picture yourself owning a beautiful piece of land. You have the title deed of that property and a map showing very clearly where the boundaries are. You won’t dare build a property overlapping with your neighbor’s land. Having good and healthy personal boundaries is knowing (and staying within) your personal limits. It is the art of taking care of and protecting God’s created masterpiece; you! A person with healthy boundaries is confident in what they are willing to do and not to do. It is the absence of selfishness and the fruit of healthy self-love. It is a position of confidence in who you are and Whose you are…
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10 NLT)
“I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.” (Psalms 139:14 AMP)
Children with no boundaries given, end up lazy, entitled, self-absorbed, destructive and insecure. This continues into adulthood! An adult without boundaries will always be at the receiving-end of people’s control, manipulation, abuse, blame, domination, criticism & perfectionism. To be subjected to this, a boundary-less person will always feel anxious, fearful, depressed and burnt-out. If you do not have boundaries, you are also a “sitting duck” for spiritual attack.
“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8 ESV).
To set boundaries, is to create a realm of freedom, security & protection.
“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” (Galatians 5:1 ESV)
Why would you let uninvited people squatter on your piece of land; the real estate you purchased and are proud to own? Why would you keep quiet if your neighbor overlooks the boundary line and starts building his factory on your piece of property? As a sheep-farmer, why would you leave the door of your sheepfold open for wolves to enter as they wish? As ridiculous as this sound, we as human beings let our guards down so easily. Some of us let people walk over us.
The question is: “What are the reasons why some of us have little personal boundaries and others simply none?” … You will find the answers in the additional blogs below…
Discover more ABOUT BOUNDARIES – We recommend to read the following Blogs in sequence:
- Blog 1: Introduction: What are Boundaries?
- Blog 2: How NOT to take on Undelegated Responsibility
- Blog 3: “Being needed” and Boundaries
- Blog 4: Help with overcoming the fear of man and people pleasing
- Blog 5: Busy People and Boundaries
- Blog 6: Overcoming Control by setting Boundaries
- Blog 7: Practical tips on how to set Boundaries
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